Hello,
I'm new to this group. I've struggled for several years with
depression, anxiety and panic attacks. I've been through various
forms of therapy, and various anti-depressants. The main issue I deal
with in my life now is an inability to handle too much stress and a
general lack of energy.
This has made it hard over the past year especially, as I'm newly
married with a new baby boy. The demands have been high, the stress
high. I've lost my temper a couple of times, and my marriage is
suffering greatly because of it. I have a great difficulty in getting
understanding from my wife who is very stressed and tired staying home
caring for our son.
I was wondering if there was anyone here in a similar situation
(married to someone who is not depressed) that is having a difficult
time, and if they had any advice.
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| User: "David" |
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| Title: Re: Troubled Marriage |
02 Apr 2007 02:03:39 PM |
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I would tell your psychiatrist, about your temper, and keep taking your
meds. Try to be more honest and sincere, send her a card or flowers (for no
reason - write to her). I would also go off any benzodiazipene, they can do
this. Also, Anger and rage can be a symptom of epilepsy or partial siezures.
Maybe you should see a neurologist, or a neuropsychiatrist to monitor all
your medications. With therapy and willingness, its possible that the two of
you could work things through.
I hope this is helpful.
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Hello,
I'm new to this group. I've struggled for several years with
depression, anxiety and panic attacks. I've been through various
forms of therapy, and various anti-depressants. The main issue I deal
with in my life now is an inability to handle too much stress and a
general lack of energy.
This has made it hard over the past year especially, as I'm newly
married with a new baby boy. The demands have been high, the stress
high. I've lost my temper a couple of times, and my marriage is
suffering greatly because of it. I have a great difficulty in getting
understanding from my wife who is very stressed and tired staying home
caring for our son.
I was wondering if there was anyone here in a similar situation
(married to someone who is not depressed) that is having a difficult
time, and if they had any advice.
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| User: "Nina" |
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| Title: Re: Troubled Marriage |
02 Apr 2007 05:25:00 PM |
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On 2 Apr 2007 11:52:36 -0700, wrote:
Hello,
I'm new to this group. I've struggled for several years with
depression, anxiety and panic attacks. I've been through various
forms of therapy, and various anti-depressants. The main issue I deal
with in my life now is an inability to handle too much stress and a
general lack of energy.
This has made it hard over the past year especially, as I'm newly
married with a new baby boy. The demands have been high, the stress
high. I've lost my temper a couple of times, and my marriage is
suffering greatly because of it. I have a great difficulty in getting
understanding from my wife who is very stressed and tired staying home
caring for our son.
I was wondering if there was anyone here in a similar situation
(married to someone who is not depressed) that is having a difficult
time, and if they had any advice.
Yeah. Been there, done that, on both sides. It is very hard to be
depressed and not have your spouse understand what you're going
through. Especially with a new baby.
On the other hand, it's very difficult to be the non-depressed spouse
and need help that you're not getting and not really understand why.
Especially with a new baby.
I don't think that there's any good, generic advice about this, but I
think that there are a few things that are worth keeping in mind.
1. It's important to keep your spouse in the loop. It's easy, if
you're depressed and anxious, to feel like this is YOUR problem to
deal with and to exclude the people you love. This doesn't make
anything better.
2. When I was most depressed, I'd get so exhausted that I'd shut my
office door and lie on the floor for a while in the middle of the day.
I was absolutely wiped all the time, and I had a small child then,
too. It is important to realize that your limitations are real, and
that you can't push through them by sheer force of will.
3. But you also have to realize that staying home with a small child
all day will drive anyone crazy, and that your wife needs you to be
supportive of what she's going through. She can probably be more
supportive of you if you are more supportive of her, in return.
Talk about it. Pace yourself. Make sure that some of the energy that
you have left goes to your wife and child.
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