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"Mz. R.e" |
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07 Oct 2004 02:27:21 AM |
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your thoughts? |
What would you make of an individual who was so repulsed by their own
body, that the thought of sex made them miserable and depressed?
What would you make of an individual who must be intoxicated to be
physically intimate with their spouse and who often talks of feeling
'bad' after doing so?
And this individual has no history of sexual abuse.
Though there was some physical abuse.
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Mz.R.e.
medicating since reality became a problem!
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| User: "% surfs@uniserve" |
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| Title: Re: your thoughts? |
07 Oct 2004 08:25:14 AM |
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"Mz. R.e" <mz_rancid@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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What would you make of an individual who was so repulsed by their own
body, that the thought of sex made them miserable and depressed?
i'd think who cares as long as i get my thing on , off
What would you make of an individual who must be intoxicated to be
physically intimate with their spouse and who often talks of feeling
'bad' after doing so?
drinking often makes you feel bad after doing so
And this individual has no history of sexual abuse.
Though there was some physical abuse.
??
Mz.R.e.
medicating since reality became a problem!
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| User: "Luna" |
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| Title: Re: your thoughts? |
07 Oct 2004 12:18:27 PM |
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"Mz. R.e" <mz_rancid@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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What would you make of an individual who was so repulsed by their own
body, that the thought of sex made them miserable and depressed?
What would you make of an individual who must be intoxicated to be
physically intimate with their spouse and who often talks of feeling
'bad' after doing so?
And this individual has no history of sexual abuse.
Though there was some physical abuse.
Have I not gathered that you don't even really like your spouse to begin with?
Jean
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Mz.R.e.
medicating since reality became a problem!
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| User: "Kirby Cook" |
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| Title: Re: your thoughts? |
07 Oct 2004 10:39:01 AM |
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Mz. R.e wrote:
What would you make of an individual who was so repulsed by their own
body, that the thought of sex made them miserable and depressed?
What would you make of an individual who must be intoxicated to be
physically intimate with their spouse and who often talks of feeling
'bad' after doing so?
And this individual has no history of sexual abuse.
Though there was some physical abuse.
??
Mz.R.e.
medicating since reality became a problem!
Having just read your redux, it seems to me there is a lot of anger in
there about *something*. When you have some quiet time, do you think it
might help to ask yourself, "What am I so mad about?" Maybe you'll have
to ask more than once, as different answers present themselves for
evaluation.
Anger is sort of generically destructive. Directed, it will seek to
destroy its object. Held, it well destroy its vessel, eventually.
Wishing you the best of luck for today, and tomorrow, and thereafter.
Kirby
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| User: "GlennT" |
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| Title: Re: your thoughts? |
07 Oct 2004 06:58:49 AM |
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Mz. R.e wrote:
What would you make of an individual who was so repulsed by their own
body, that the thought of sex made them miserable and depressed?
What would you make of an individual who must be intoxicated to be
physically intimate with their spouse and who often talks of feeling
'bad' after doing so?
And this individual has no history of sexual abuse.
Though there was some physical abuse.
??
Mz.R.e.
medicating since reality became a problem!
Rely on your instincts. They may be just small buds on the spring
branch... but they are worth cultivating. I am apparently
"handsome" to others and yet, in my late forties, I am just
getting used to just liking myself a little.
Basically, as good as the theory seems, looks are an excuse.
GlennT
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| User: "GlennT" |
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| Title: Re: your thoughts? |
07 Oct 2004 07:34:46 AM |
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GlennT wrote:
I am just getting used to just
liking myself a little.
I said "just" twice... damn.
GlennT
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| User: "Kirby Cook" |
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07 Oct 2004 10:19:37 AM |
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GlennT wrote:
GlennT wrote:
I am just getting used to just
liking myself a little.
I said "just" twice... damn.
GlennT
<grinning laughter> I sure like you.
Kirby
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| User: "GlennT" |
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09 Oct 2004 02:15:58 AM |
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Kirby Cook wrote:
<grinning laughter> I sure like you.
Kirby
I am pretty likeable. I even dance because I feel pleasure. Not
many of us around anymore...
"Excitable boy they all said..."
GlennT
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| User: "BGumm" |
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07 Oct 2004 12:01:34 PM |
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Mz. R.e wrote:
What would you make of an individual who was so repulsed by their own
body, that the thought of sex made them miserable and depressed?
What would you make of an individual who must be intoxicated to be
physically intimate with their spouse and who often talks of feeling
'bad' after doing so?
And this individual has no history of sexual abuse.
Though there was some physical abuse.
??
Mz.R.e.
medicating since reality became a problem!
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Sounds to me like someone in this person's past has made them feel extremely
ashamed of their body and of sex.
To me it would be a form of abuse. Making a child feel guilty for checking out
their bodies or even just really innocent situations calling attention to
things and making them feel dirty.
My ex had a bit of this problem. His mother was very nice and kind and she was
very warped on things.
She told him all women were whores and bad. She told him sex before marriage
was a sin (and in her religion it was) and that it was dirty and only used to
make babies.
She told him that being naked or experimenting in anyway with your own body was
nasty and a sin.
Ok go ahead to when he was about 17---he and I got pregnant. He was still
interested in all of those things BUT he had such a twist on what was right and
what was wrong.
He hated his body. Thought he was ugly. Sex for us was done completely for
YEARS in one position only and if I tried (which I had no experience either but
my parents had raised me to be a bit freer and to want to learn) to do anything
different it was considered whorish.
Things like this. It all stems from what you are taught at a young age. I was
molested at a young age and while it warped certain parts of me I was not
afraid of sex or of experimenting.
Everything my ex's mother did to him completed stunted him and stunted his true
sexuality---he is now a gay man---living the way he should've way back in the
beginning.
Everything was a sin in her eyes and she put that on his shoulders too although
I would say by now he has probably gone way beyond experimenting and is
hopefully now enjoying his lifestyle. Hopefully.
Sometimes what parents and others do to children in their informative years and
beyond is a crime.
Becky
btw---I wouldn't think anything bad of a person who was feeling this way. They
need to be re-educated and hopefully have supportive people around them. They
have to have everything reinforced against what they already have been taught
and learned and drilled into them.
"I have seen the sea when it is stormy and wild;
when it is quiet and serene; when it is dark and
moody. And in all its moods, I see myself."
-Martin Buxbaum
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| User: "=^.^=" |
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| Title: Re: your thoughts? |
07 Oct 2004 03:05:39 AM |
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On Thu, 07 Oct 2004 07:27:21 GMT, Mz. R.e <mz_rancid@hotmail.com>
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What would you make of an individual who was so repulsed by their own
body, that the thought of sex made them miserable and depressed?
bad socialization
What would you make of an individual who must be intoxicated to be
physically intimate with their spouse and who often talks of feeling
'bad' after doing so?
more bad socialization and transferrance of habits...
smoking opium and hashish and dropping LSD is more fun
And this individual has no history of sexual abuse.
Though there was some physical abuse.
maybe a bad mommie?
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