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Pregnant teen can't hide affair with her pastor much longer
ABIGAIL VAN BUREN
Article Last Updated: 02/01/2008 06:02:19 PM CST
Dear Abby: I have a big problem. I am 16 years old, have a good job
and do well in school. I go to a Christian non-denominational church
every Sunday and enjoy that, too.
The problem is my pastor. "Reverend Ron" is 48, married and has
children and grandchildren. We have become attracted to each other and
have secretly become a couple since last fall.
Every Monday night, after I get off work, I go over to my church and
meet Reverend Ron in his office where we have sex. We agreed to tell
no one, so as not to shame ourselves or our families.
Six weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant. I haven't told him yet, and
we continue with our Monday night meetings. Abortion is not an option,
but neither is shaming my family, much less the whole church. Abby,
what do I do?
- In True Love in Washington
Dear In True Love: The first thing you must do is tell your mother
what you have told me. If there is any "shaming," it should not be
directed at you, your family or your church. You are 16, idealistic
and inexperienced. "Reverend Ron," however, is an adult who has abused
his "sacred" trust to you, his congregation and his God. He had so
little concern for your welfare that he didn't even use birth control.
This is not how grown men show "true love."
You cannot hide this secret forever. At some point, the truth will be
revealed. Tell your mother now, so responsible adults who love you can
give you the support you so desperately need. If you're afraid to
speak to your mother alone, then have a friend with you when you do
it.
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